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Dear Future Me . . .

7/7/2015

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A few years ago, I completed a course about living and managing my life with purpose. To be honest I can't remember much about the course now except for one life-changing session. And that was the development of my very own mission statement.

I have to admit, the term "mission statement" sounds reasonably dull. Like isn't that what companies do, at the front of those glossy brochures which nobody reads? But bear with me . . . this gets pretty cool.

On the last afternoon of the course, we were let loose for two hours with a blank sheet of paper to write our own personal mission statements. For the first half hour (or maybe hour) I employed my usual bag of distraction tricks. I really did need to chew on that pen for a while. And what was that I needed to do when I got home that evening? However after giving myself a stern talking to, I put pen to paper, forgot about the world around me, and words started to flow.

And the result was absolutely amazing. I came home on a cloud that day because for the first time I had described me as the person I honestly wanted to be. I still carry that page around today. My life has moved on but the things I talked about are still relevant today. Things like being jumping out of bed each day full of ideas and enthusiasm, making work an extension of who I am (not the other way around),  being best mates with my wife and mentor to my girls. 
A mission statement is really all about painting a picture of an ideal "future you". Describing things like where you will be, what you will be doing and how you will be feeling. Having a mission statement is something everyone should do before seeking changes to our lives. Because to plan your travel through life, it helps hugely to have your destination in mind.

So now I have tantalisingly tempted you with how wonderful and liberating a mission statement is, allow me to provide you with some simple tips to develop one of your own.
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First step: Identify your core values
Roy Disney said "Its not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are" . . . Your values define you as a person. They guide (often subconsciously) your actions and reactions, beliefs, outlook on life. We are all different and we all have values, which are individually important to us at different times in our life. Some might value honesty, others sustainability, perseverance, risk taking. The list is endless.

The object of this exercise is to identify those values that are absolutely fundamental in your life. I chose six. I arrived at that number by brainstorming a "long list" of values and separating those out between those that were "sort of" important to me, strongly important and those that I simply could not imagine living without.

Your core values are enduring. They may excite and uplift you. They will probably feel natural and you may well have felt them as a child (and still do). Beware transitory things that seem like values but often aren't. If there is urgency attached or if you need it to get somewhere else, it may not be one of your core values.
Second step: Answer some blood pumping questions
This step is all about casting your mind free. You are in a place where nobody will judge you, where money isn't an issue and where everything is possible.  Answer some (or all) of the following questions . . .
  1. If money or location were irrelevant, what would your ultimate dream job be?
  2. You have just won a competition for an all expenses paid trip to anywhere in the world. One month. You get to choose. Where would you go?
  3. If you could join the Board and direct efforts of one charitable organisation, which one would you choose?
  4. Who do you most admire? 
  5. What did you do in the last year that you were incredibly proud of?
  6. What would you do if you knew nobody would judge you?
  7. You have won $10 million. What is the first thing you would do?
  8. What did you want to be when you were growing up?
  9. You get the chance to train as a teacher. What would you teach?
  10. You have a month at a cottage in the mountains. No telephone, no internet, no neighbours, no shops. What would you do?
  11. Your friends are asked to say what they like about you in a confidential survey - what do you think they would say
  12. What made you smile today?
Third step: Identify your roles in life
You have roles in your life. We all do. We are brothers or sisters, work colleagues, keepers of the house, sons, daughters, workers, bosses, club members, coaches, counsellors, friends . . . Our roles form the basis of our relationships in life. And therefore they are a useful focus point for defining your vision about the future person you really want to be.

Think about (and write down) the roles you have in life. Try to start with those that mean most to you. And, most importantly, don't forget to include the role you have to look after yourself!
Fourth step: Completing your mission statement
There is no "correct" to develop your own mission statement. It should be personal to you and its up to you to write and present it in a way that will give you the absolute best possible chance of success.

My mission statement is based around my roles in life, which I then weave in the values that are important to me and some answers to those blood pumping questions.


So as an example, and taken word-for-word from that mission statement I wrote all those years ago: As a father I will give my daughters understanding and support, in order that they may grow up to become emotionally fulfilled young women. I will teach them that anything is possible in life. We will plan and do cool and original trips together every year. I will be their friend. Forever.

I could also have based my mission statement around my values. So for example: I will make it a priority always be honest in life. With those I love, with those I live with, with those I work with, with my boss and above all with my self . . .

Or I could have based it around answers to my blood pumping questions. So for example: Within the next five years I will start a business to bring some "good" into this world. I will stay true to my dreams of sustainability and the belief that everyone deserves to be happy in life. And that business will make me a better person, father and husband.

Making my mission statement was absolutely one of the best things I ever done in my life. I know it off by heart now, and it has helped me make some major decisions (as well as helping me respond to the more common-place stimuli in life). But above all, it has truly helped me live my life out of hope and faith . . . rather than out of fear.

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11/29/2022 02:28:42 am

Take time to consider whether your feelings for your special someone are romantic and whether you are truly interested in this person.

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11/29/2022 02:29:32 am


Identify how much you like this person and whether your feelings are romantic.

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    https://www.lifekindness.org/Hi I'm Richard Norris. I live in Wellington, New Zealand, with my wife Jolanda.

    After many years or working and observing human nature I decided to launch www.itsgoingtobegreat.org - all about happiness, mindfulness and feeling great. 
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    Much of the material is taken from everyday life experiences. My motivation is to give something back to a world that has given me so much - and the hope is that someone, somewhere reading this just might realise some of their dreams.

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